Reverse socialization – “child is the father of man” – ‘growing up’ by parenting!
My real challenge of manhood is not whether I multiply biologically or not, but whether I take care of my (elderly) parents when they become dependent…
Erikson – what’s in a name?
Crusty old codgers.
Crisis – challenge, opportunity, evolution.
Dependence & belonging – infant.
Confiding & intimacy – adult.
Coping strategy & character formation.
Primitive dilemma – virtue vs. vice.
Predictability & safety.
Psychosexual vs. Socio-emotional.
Mistrust >> suspicion, pessimism & self-sufficiency.
Terrible or wonderful twos?!
Precocious
Continence
GOD will take care of me, so I can relax >> My freedom vs. GOD’s will >> Pleasing GOD by keeping the Law >> becoming more like Christ (a better/stronger person) by imitating Jesus >> community of disciples/devotees (love one another) >> participating in the Kingdom/Mission
There is such a thing as self-defeating rebellion!
Parent ~ GOD ~ life/world/reality/nature
Optimistic, social, confident, competitive, clarity
Vs.
Pessimistic, isolated, ashamed, passive, confusion
Parent >> self >> others >> GOD
Myelination & cognition!
Peer pressure does NOT come from others around you!
Tribal mentality – fit in or die!
You are your parents (esp. Mother)
You are how your parents treat you.
You are your skills.
You are your appearance.
You are your friends.
You are your character.
You are your partner.
– Rules for attitude & conduct ~ skills to survive & thrive
Curiosity >> experimentation >> discovery!
What am I? >> Who am I? >> Why am I?
Identity-formation >> ready for commitment & intimacy
Biology >> psychology >> sociology >> philosophy
Your identity is determined by…?
Your value is dependent upon…?
Adulthood – emerging (18-24), early (25-34), middle (35-49), late (50-death)
Transition, consolidation, peaking & fade-out
Independence without self-absorption
Curiosity, risk-taking & initiative
Social welfare vs. Ethical ideals
Proverbs (moralism) vs. Ecclesiastes (philosophy) vs. Song of Solomon (romance)
Psychology from the gender perspective
Gender, age, upbringing & personality
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